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‘I Want To Change My Name Again’

Wanting to change your name now after people have adjusted will not make you a burden.

Summer Tao —

Mar 18, 2025

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‘I’m Lost in the Gender Expression Sauce’

“I always thought, if I weren’t a trans man, I’d be a butch lesbian.”

Summer Tao —

Mar 11, 2025

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‘My Partner Is Hurt I’ve Changed My Mind About Having a Baby’

This is one of those incredibly difficult situations where you and your partner are both entitled to your feelings even though those feelings are at direct odds with each other.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Mar 4, 2025

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"I've never had sex with a girl before and I'm highly insecure about my body."

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‘I’m a Sexually Inexperienced Stud Afraid of Doing It Wrong’

“Honestly I know I’m straight up lesbian ( stud ) and I’ve been in a few relationships with girls and I always ended it when things were about to get…

Summer Tao —

Feb 25, 2025

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"In the beginning of our relationship we had great sexual chemistry but when we started living together things went downhill."

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‘My Wife and I Haven’t Had Sex in Almost Two Years’

“We still kiss, cuddle, and go on dates, but that’s as intimate as it gets.”

Summer Tao —

Feb 18, 2025

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"How do I experiment and find what makes my partner feel good if even a light make out session makes him overwhelmed with anxiety about his inexperience?"

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‘How Can I Be a Good Girlfriend When My Partner Is Extremely Anxious About Sex’

“I feel like we intuitively understand each other and our needs in a lot of matters and are willing to figure it out when intuition isn’t enough. One area that…

Summer Tao —

Feb 4, 2025

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"I have practically zero sexual experience with women, and although I want to learn, I'm afraid that women will lose interest in me after I tell them about my inexperience."

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‘I Just Realized I’m Bi and Am Extremely Anxious’

I’ve flirted with women at bars, online, and have even had a few steamy make-out sessions, but I’m extremely anxious about taking it any further.

Summer Tao —

Jan 21, 2025

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“What cuts/styles of lingerie bottoms or pretty/sexy underwear are femmes with abundant pubic hair rocking?”

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‘I Want Femme Lingerie That Accommodates an Abundance of Pubic Hair’

“Finding a pretty bra is relatively easy. However, I feel like I haven’t figured out what to do by way of pretty underwear.”

Summer Tao —

Jan 14, 2025

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"A few years ago, when I met the person who is now my best friend, I definitely had a big crush."

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‘Is It Okay if I Stay in Love With My Best Friend?’

“We’re not going to get together for a lot of reasons — I don’t really have time for a new partner, they’re monogamous and I am not, and they’re just…

Summer Tao —

Jan 7, 2025

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