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  • A collage of three photos. On the left, a young Carmen smiles outside. In the center, Nico and Carmen post for a photo opp outdoors in Buffalo, arms outstretched, and to the right, adult Carmen poses in a flowing white dress and Birkenstocks outside
    AF Advice Box

    Things I’ve Never Asked Carmen About Growing Up
    in a Theater Family, Her Dating Habits, and More!

    Nico
    Nov 16, 2022
  • A double image of Dani, and her two brothers, Dakota and Dave, standing with Santa Claus. They are, at the time, three young, Black children, wearing 90's fashion, surrounded by Christmas deco
    AF Advice Box

    Things I’ve Never Asked My Brothers About Growing Up
    in an Abusive Household, Being Adopted, and My Writing

    danijanae
    Aug 9, 2022
  • Vanessa and PB pose in front of a pool in bathing suits, wearing sunglasses. Vanessa's sunglasses are red and heart-shaped. PB's are clear with greenish lenses. PB is white and has blonde hair that is long on top and under a hat with a swoop of bangs visible and with shaved sides. Vanessa is also white with long brown hair she is wearing up.
    AF Advice Box

    Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend
    About Wildflowers, Baby Names and Time Travel

    Vanessa
    May 27, 2022
  • Kristen Arnett, a white queer person in sunglasses and a tanktop that says Dad, leans toward her girlfriend, Autostraddle Managing Editor Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya, who is a South Asian and white lesbian with her brown curly hair in a ponytail and wearing glue glasses and white overalls over a white t-shirt. They are at Orlando Pride, and Kristen is holding a cup that says Orlando Pride Party on it.
    AF Advice Box

    Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend of Three
    Years About Age Gaps, Topping, and Our First Date

    Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya
    Mar 29, 2022
  • A collage of three photos. On the left, a young Carmen smiles outside. In the center, Nico and Carmen post for a photo opp outdoors in Buffalo, arms outstretched, and to the right, adult Carmen poses in a flowing white dress and Birkenstocks outside
    AF Advice Box

    Things I’ve Never Asked Carmen About Growing Up
    in a Theater Family, Her Dating Habits, and More!

    Nico
    Nov 16, 2022
  • A double image of Dani, and her two brothers, Dakota and Dave, standing with Santa Claus. They are, at the time, three young, Black children, wearing 90's fashion, surrounded by Christmas deco
    AF Advice Box

    Things I’ve Never Asked My Brothers About Growing Up
    in an Abusive Household, Being Adopted, and My Writing

    danijanae
    Aug 9, 2022
  • Vanessa and PB pose in front of a pool in bathing suits, wearing sunglasses. Vanessa's sunglasses are red and heart-shaped. PB's are clear with greenish lenses. PB is white and has blonde hair that is long on top and under a hat with a swoop of bangs visible and with shaved sides. Vanessa is also white with long brown hair she is wearing up.
    AF Advice Box

    Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend
    About Wildflowers, Baby Names and Time Travel

    Vanessa
    May 27, 2022
  • Kristen Arnett, a white queer person in sunglasses and a tanktop that says Dad, leans toward her girlfriend, Autostraddle Managing Editor Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya, who is a South Asian and white lesbian with her brown curly hair in a ponytail and wearing glue glasses and white overalls over a white t-shirt. They are at Orlando Pride, and Kristen is holding a cup that says Orlando Pride Party on it.
    AF Advice Box

    Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend of Three
    Years About Age Gaps, Topping, and Our First Date

    Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya
    Mar 29, 2022
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A collage of three photos. On the left, a young Carmen smiles outside. In the center, Nico and Carmen post for a photo opp outdoors in Buffalo, arms outstretched, and to the right, adult Carmen poses in a flowing white dress and Birkenstocks outside
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Things I’ve Never Asked Carmen About Growing Up in a Theater Family, Her Dating Habits, and More!

We talk tattoos, 9/11 and Carmen’s high school activism, spirituality, what L Word character Carmen is most like, being a die-hard femme and more!
Nico —
Nov 16, 2022
Things I've Never Asked
A double image of Dani, and her two brothers, Dakota and Dave, standing with Santa Claus. They are, at the time, three young, Black children, wearing 90's fashion, surrounded by Christmas deco
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Things I’ve Never Asked My Brothers About Growing Up in an Abusive Household, Being Adopted, and My Writing

“We were doing rap battles and Dani was writing all the stuff because she was better at it. You remember that?”
danijanae —
Aug 9, 2022
Things I've Never Asked
Vanessa and PB pose in front of a pool in bathing suits, wearing sunglasses. Vanessa's sunglasses are red and heart-shaped. PB's are clear with greenish lenses. PB is white and has blonde hair that is long on top and under a hat with a swoop of bangs visible and with shaved sides. Vanessa is also white with long brown hair she is wearing up.
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Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend About Wildflowers, Baby Names and Time Travel

“Why do you think it took us so long to get together as girlfriends considering we’ve been friends for almost a decade?”
Vanessa —
May 27, 2022
kristen arnett
Things I've Never Asked
Kristen Arnett, a white queer person in sunglasses and a tanktop that says Dad, leans toward her girlfriend, Autostraddle Managing Editor Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya, who is a South Asian and white lesbian with her brown curly hair in a ponytail and wearing glue glasses and white overalls over a white t-shirt. They are at Orlando Pride, and Kristen is holding a cup that says Orlando Pride Party on it.
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Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend of Three Years About Age Gaps, Topping, and Our First Date

In part two of their intimate interview, Autostraddle Managing Editor Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya asks her girlfriend Kristen Arnett to define being a top and what she remembers about their first…
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —
Mar 29, 2022
kristen arnett
Things I've Never Asked
This is a photo of Kayla and Kristen. Kayla embraces Kristen and kisses them on the cheek while Kristen smiles. They both have long brown hair and wear glasses. They're also both wearing sweaters!
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Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend of Three Years About Her Childhood and High School Years

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya asks Kristen Arnett juicy questions about queer desire, secret high school girlfriends, and more in this new A+ series in which we ask people we’re close with…
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —
Mar 9, 2022
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